What Happened to the Sad and the Bad?

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Looking through my album pages the thought occurred to me how they were all bright and cheerful, showing happy events and good times, a store of positive memories.

OK, I hear you ask “What’s so unusual about that?”

It’s not, most scrappers will find the same in their albums. I know that I for one, use scrapbooking as a way to record the things that happen to me and those close to me as we go through our lives. Photographs and journaling explain the events and feelings, so they don’t get forgotten. But on reflection it seems to me my album is a little unbalanced.

What happened to the rest of my life, the sad, confused or lonely days? The times I was so angry and the moments I felt lost. Perhaps other people do scrap those as well, but I am sure many are like me and just preserve the positive moments.

So why should I feel the need to scrap the negative?

toby1.jpgWell, those negative moments are just as much part of my life or yours as the happy ones. I’m not suggesting that we start taking photographs of sad or morbid events, quite the reverse.

There is an other way to include those times and it needn’t be ugly!

What about using a photograph to represent the mood we were feeling or the atmosphere of the time. Photographs of animals, especially cats and dogs, which have such a wonderful range of expressions could be used.

js_forest.jpgOr what about a photograph of a large, empty piece of countryside – great for symbolising loneliness or sadness whilst still being beautiful.

The journaling can explain the mood and could be extremely therapeutic to write, as it would get us thinking about how we were actually feeling at the time. The more I ponder it, the more ideas come into my head on how symbolism could work.

js_forest_walk.jpgHow about a blurred or swirling image for situations that left us confused.

A mist over water could convey a feeling of being lost or directionless. The possibilities are endless and not just for negative emotions. Perhaps I’ll even adopt this idea for other more positive times too!

So in conclusion, I feel that in future my albums should capture a wider range of the emotions that I experience in my journey through life. There is a place in my albums for negative emotions, they are after all a part of my world and me.

June writes the Cen’s Loft Blog where she shares her designs and freebies with her readers.

18 Responses to What Happened to the Sad and the Bad?

  1. Ray Davis March 5, 2008 at 12:20 am #

    June,

    Great post! My wife scrapbooks a lot and it is the same situation. You always scrapbook the good and the exciting and forget the ordinary and even the difficult times. It’s
    also very important psychologoically to “work” your way through those issues. Scrapbooking is such a great outlet for so many people to do that.

    Ray Davis

    Ray Davis’s last blog post..Changing Our Minds, Changing the World – The Affirmation Spot for Tuesday March 4, 2008

  2. Hummie March 5, 2008 at 12:31 am #

    I am always saying this to others too, encouraging them of the same….I stumbled you!

  3. Hannah March 5, 2008 at 5:51 am #

    I agree. I have scrapped layouts about my postnatal depression, I think it was actually really helpful for ME and I’m sure others who read it will gain some insight and hopefully it will give them hope.

    Hannah’s last blog post..Love letters

  4. Latte'Dah March 5, 2008 at 6:56 am #

    This article will make me rethink some of my future LO’s. Thank you for the inspiration and advice on a different way to view Scrapbooking. :)

    Latte’Dah’s last blog post..No Bull…

  5. karooch March 5, 2008 at 6:00 pm #

    I think scrapbooking the sad and the bad can be a lot more challenging that we’re used to. But as Hannah says, it can be really helpful to the scrapbooker to go through this process. And the story can be of help to others who read it too.

    Well done June for opening this subject up to us. A lot of food for thought here.

  6. chris March 5, 2008 at 10:27 pm #

    This is something I have been thinking of for a while… None of us have totally happy times so it does make lots of sense to scrap the other times too. Love the article and along with those thought provoking photos I have lots to think about… more layouts on the agenda for me now. Thanks for making me think :D

    chris’s last blog post..Free Digital Paper Pack and ….

  7. Tink March 6, 2008 at 2:22 am #

    Excellent article June. Thank you. While my grands probably will hate me for it later, I do try and scrap their various moods and quirks. I seem to be adept at getting pictures of the Princess when she is being whiny, moody or just down right ugly, LOL.

  8. Sassy March 6, 2008 at 10:40 am #

    I’ve been scrapping for many years now, I tend to do a lot of journalling on my pages, so it was only natural for me to include the sad & bad times on my pages. I’d been told by a few that it was a little off putting seeing these ‘other’ pages in among my lovely pages and that I shouldn’t really focus on those things…but like you I feel they are part of what happens to us all, just like the fun and good times and deserve to be recorded as well. I like the idea of using landscape photos or even cat/dog photos. For me, when journalling about the death of a loved one, I tend to use photos of the things that meant a great deal to the person, for example yellow roses were my Mother’s passion, my sister was a cop and loved her job with every ounce of her being, so it was only right to use photos of things representing a cop. When my Aunt died suddenly only a few weeks before her first grandchild was born, I asked everyone at the funeral to write down at least one of their most cherished memories of my Aunt…it was incredible the storys they told, some that none of us in the family had known about. It’s true the sad and bad times happen, and you are right, it needn’t be morbid or in bad taste to record these events…to have a balanced life one needs both good and bad, so why not have those both recorded in our albums…afterall, without the bad times we’d never truly appreciate those good times, right? I loved your article June, way to go hun, keep up the great work and I look forward to seeing more articles from you! xxx

  9. Kim March 6, 2008 at 11:26 am #

    Great article June! And really gives me something to think about. The bad times are part of us also and help to make us who we are. I have some new ideas for future LO’s.

    Kim’s last blog post..I’m back with a kit for you!

  10. Christy March 6, 2008 at 5:13 pm #

    This is a wonderful article! I totally agree, Every experience good and bad make us who we are. I just scrapped a memorial album for friend Marsha’s little boy Tyler who was killed by a drunk driver. And even though Tyler was not my son I loved him very much and he was a part of our family. It was hard to do the album, but it made me feel as though I was doing something to preserve his memory…My daughter was 3 months old when Ty died and his brother Micah was getting ready to turn two. Micah isn’t going to have all those memories we have but he will have his scrapbook and all the stories he hears about having the best big brother in the world!

    Christy’s last blog post..New LO’s for 2 albums

  11. karooch March 6, 2008 at 9:00 pm #

    Tink, Sassy, Kim and Christy

    Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this. I think June has really struck a chord for many of us with this article.

  12. Census March 7, 2008 at 2:00 am #

    Thank you all for sharing your thoughts on this. I am glad that other people feel the same way or that having read the article may think about doing some layouts like this in the future. It is lovely to read your comments, thank you so much for taking the time to let me know what you thought. I know that life is full and rich, so much a mixture of events and emotions, lets make our scrapbook show a glimpse of them all to save a balance picture of the wonderful people we are. Don’t let part of your life slip by unacknowledged!! Thanks again!

    Census’s last blog post..Overlays freebie and Guess what!

  13. Gabrielle March 9, 2008 at 7:49 am #

    June, hats off to you for broaching a subject that is normally swept under the carpet! If only we found it acceptable to talk about our disappointments in life, as freely as we do about our joys, maybe our children would be growing in a more caring world. Personally I think this ‘modern’ need to be accepted by all and sundry, drives us more and more into ourselves. We are teaching our children to turn a ‘happy’ face to the outside while research has shown that children today are the unhappiest they have ever been. Your suggestion about scrapping each part of our lives is exactly what we should do. I have read the other wonderful comments above and it is SO GOOD to hear about real lives. Surely this is what memory making is about. Embracing all facets of our lives so that the truth, good and not so good will be there for future generations, and always remember, even the worst of situations usually brings out the best in someone.
    To everyone above, mention the idea of ‘truth scrapping’ to your friends. You will probably be surprised at how many were only waiting for someone else to ‘roll the ball’. June has.
    Love to you all Gabrielle xx

    Gabrielle’s last blog post..FREEBIE! 2 Punched Flower Frames

  14. Census March 11, 2008 at 7:46 am #

    I agree Gabrielle that people often feel they have to smile no matter what as it’s what’s expected and that we all should have the opportunity to be able to express the full range of things that happen to us and the emotions we feel. We none of us have perfect lives and yes, the worst situations really can bring out the best in us..not always at the time..but all of life is a learning curve and we learn from the good as well as the bad.
    I think you’ve just invented a new phrase “truth scrapping” I will use that phrase in future as I think it acurately describes how we could all have a more balanced scrapping album! Thank you!!

    Census’s last blog post..Template Freebie, Monday Challenge and New Stuff

  15. Olga March 14, 2008 at 10:19 pm #

    It’s true that scrapping not only has to be about happy moments and about others, it’s something we do and we should feel and scrap what we feel and that not always is happy or nice. Good and bad experiences are what make us and we should be aware of them and be able to deal with them comfortably and yes it’s true that it could be very therapeutic for some people.

    It’s a nice and good article, June, thanks so much for sharing it.

    Best wishes. :O)

  16. Census March 18, 2008 at 4:28 am #

    Thank you for the kind words Olga. It lovely to know that others agree with letting out scrapbook pages tell the whole story. I really glad that you enjoyed the article.

    Census’s last blog post..France here I come… and a tiny freebie!!

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